Locks On Children's Bedroom Doors
Kristen Bell says she relies on a 'controversial' parenting hack to get her 3-year-old daughter to sleep
- Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have two daughters — 3-year-old Delta and 4-year-old Lincoln.
- Bell recently revealed that, because Delta throws tantrums before bed, she locks her daughter in the bedroom when it's time for bed.
- "I know that's controversial, but we lock it when she gets in there, and we stand outside and say, 'We love you, we will talk to you in the morning, but now, it's time for sleep.'"
- Although some critics expressed anger about the parenting tactic, most commenters said they found it understandable or relatable.
From anal worms to marital strife, Kristen Bell rarely shies away from a potentially embarrassing topic. And although parenting can be a touchy subject for many, when it comes to raising two young daughters with husband Dax Shepard, the "Bad Moms" actress remains as candid as ever.
Most recently, Bell opened up to Parents magazine about their 3-year-old daughter, Delta, who has apparently decided to "stop sleeping."
"Every night, when we put her to bed, she turns the lights on, which annoys the 4-year-old [Lincoln], and she will move furniture, and she bangs on the door with different, hard toys," she told Parents.
Bell went on to share the strategy she and Shepard have adopted to combat this behavior — and acknowledged that some people may not like it.
"We switched the doorknob. We turned the lock on the outside," she said. "I'm sorry, I know that's controversial, but we lock it when she gets in there, and we stand outside and say, 'We love you, we will talk to you in the morning, but now, it's time for sleep.' And after about 10 minutes, she'll wind herself down. And then, before we go to bed, obviously, we unlock it."
When Buzzfeed wrote about Bell's interview, the comment section erupted with a variety of opinions.
Some people were furious that any parent would lock their child's bedroom from the outside.
"What the hell is wrong with all of you?! Locking a kid inside a room?! Would YOU like to be locked in a room?! What does that teach a child?! If her kid is doing something, she has her reasons, and that's what should be addressed," one critic wrote. " This is disgusting. Yes, I will judge. Don't want to listen to your child and be there when they need you? Don't have one."
"I can't believe this is even a discussion," wrote another. "If you cannot raise a child to adulthood without putting a lock on the outside of their bedroom door, you are doing something wrong. Sorry your child is inconveniencing you. Don't have any more."
Some critics on Twitter were more concerned about safety, while others expressed doubt about the effectiveness of the tactic.
—Maebh X (@YoureOnlyMassiv) March 24, 2018
—ECMkat (@ECMKat1) March 24, 2018
Many more commenters, however, thought that the parenting hack was understandable or relatable.
Some even shared their own similar stories to show solidarity.
"My 4 year old still wakes up 50% of the nights. Her pediatrician actually told us to do this," one person wrote in Buzzfeed's comment section. "We used to put her in a 'cage,' aka her crib. How is keeping her in a 10 x 10 room worse?"
"This isn't out of the norm. My two year old recently moved up to a toddler bed and figured out how to open doors in the same day. So I put a baby lock on the inside of our door so he can't let himself out," wrote another. "Most nights he'll usually fiddle with the door and cry for a minute after I set him down and close the door, then he'll put himself back to bed and go to sleep. I'm all for cuddles and soothing, but sometimes kids just need to learn to out themselves to bed."
—Amber (@ambearinas) March 24, 2018
There are many ways to handle a tantrum — and some parenting experts are on board with Bell's technique.
Parents made a point to clarify that, despite its "controversial" nature, Bell's admission is not inherently wrong or bad. Dr. Jodi Mindell, associate director of the Sleep Center at The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, told Parents magazine thatallowing a child the "chance to work it out for himself and see if he falls back to sleep without your help" could prevent creating a "sleep monster."
According to Parents, ignoring children is a valid way to cope with meltdowns in any situation, so as not to reinforce their negative behavior — as long as they are not physically endangering themselves or others.
"Meltdowns are terrible, nasty things, but they're a fact of childhood. Young kids — namely those between the ages of one and four — haven't developed good coping skills yet. They tend to just lose it instead," Dr. Ray Levy, a clinical psychologist and co-author of "Try and Make Me! Simple Strategies That Turn Off the Tantrums and Create Cooperation," told Parents.
Fiery debates are sparked on every corner of the Internet every day. But when it comes to raising children, getting an expert's opinion and trusting a mother's instinct can usually do the trick.
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Locks On Children's Bedroom Doors
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